Letting go : The Lesson I Din't want, But Needed

There are many things that don’t break us; they just ask to be released.

We carry a certain heaviness. It's not because we have to, but because we don’t know how to set it down or let it go.

For me, it was a friendship I clung to too tightly. It used to bring joy, laughter, and comfort. But over time, it began to feel like walking on eggshells. I felt responsible for someone else's happiness while neglecting my own.

Still, I held on. Letting go felt like failing. It felt like giving up on something that once meant the world to me.

Then one day, I realized I wasn’t holding on out of love anymore. I was holding on out of fear—fear of being wrong, fear of being alone, and fear of what others might think.

That’s when I learned what letting go truly means.

Letting go isn’t always dramatic. It’s not a slammed door or a final message. Sometimes, it’s simply waking up and choosing peace over pressure. Sometimes, it’s not about walking away, but stepping back—kindly, firmly, and fully.

Letting go means trusting that the space left behind will be filled with something better. It’s about taking a deeper breath, becoming a freer version of yourself, and starting anew.

I thought letting go would feel like a loss. Instead, it felt like coming home to myself.

Dear readers, is there something or someone you are holding on to? Not out of love, but out of habit, fear, or guilt? What would it feel like to gently set it down?

Please share your thoughts.

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  1. AnjuJune 26, 2025 at 9:14 PM

    Focussing on life lessons seems Ma'am to be a superb series

    You may include lessons learnt over the years, heartbreaks, daily struggles, loneliness, relationship advice, Faith and God, Bringing up children, Prayers answered, spiritual growth

    You also have immense knowledge about our Devi, Devtas, Temples....the ones you had told us that your grandfather would tell you about, if I remember correctly

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