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The Pause That Heals

Learning to Ask - " What Do I Need Right Now?" There is a quiet power in the ability to pause. To step back from the noise of a situation, the emotional swirl of somone else's actions, the weight of expectations - and simply ask yourself one question: "What do I need to do to take care of myself right now?" Most of forget one thing in moments of chaos - we forget ourselves. We get caught in fixing, pleasing, responding, reacting. We stay busy trying to hold things together, to keep peace, to avoid conflict, to explain our pain. But rarel do we stop to ask: What about me? Self-care is not selfish.  Detachment is not coldness. It's clarity. It's saying: I see what's happenning, but I refuse to let it consume me. I acknowledge the mess, but I won't drown it. I can love others without abandoning myself. Detachment doesn't mean shutting people out - it means not trying your emotional well-being to their behaviour. It means creating space btween th...

Eat Well - Nourish our Body, Honour Your Life

  We often hear that advice: Eat well. But in a world full of fast food, fad diets, and hurried lives, this simple wisdom can easily get lost. Eating well is not just about what's on your plate - its about how you treat yourself. It's a daily practice of love, respect and intention. Food is Fuel, But also an Emotion Yes, food gives us energy, But it also carries memory, emotion and connection. A bowl of hot rasam when you are down with a cold, your mother's Sunday sambar with potato fry or a sweet made during special days and festivals (For me it's the curd vada and mysore pak made by my mom for my birthdays) - these are not just meals or snacks or sweets, but are comfort, tradition and care served on a plate.  To eat well and properly is to honour that connection, It's about not just feeding your stomach, but nurturing your spirit too.  Listen to your body, Don't go by Trends Our bodies are smart - they often tell us what they need. But we have stopped listenin...

Secure Your Oxygen Mask First - The Self - Care Lesson Life Keeps Teaching

 One of t he most overlooked but powerful life lessons comes from a simple instruction given before every flight takes off: “In the event of a loss in cabin pressure, secure your own oxygen mask before assisting others” At first, it may sound selfish - especially to those of us who are natural caregivers, always putting others first. But the deeper message is profound: You can’t pour from an empty cup. You can’t save others if you are gasping for air.  Life, much like a flight, throws turbulence at us - stress, responsibilities, relationships, health issues, emotional exhaustion. And often, we respond by trying to help everyone else cope, while quietly burning ourselves out in the background.  We run on fumes.  We suppress our own needs. We call it strength. But really, it’s unsustainable.  There comes a point when helping others at the cost of your own well-being becomes not boble, but damaging. Because what good are we to the people we love if we are exhausted...

When They Walk Away Without Apology - It’s Not You, It’sTheir Conscience

Have you ever found yourself wondering why someone who just you just vanished? Why they chose silence over accountability?Why they disappeared instead of simply saying,”I am sorry?” You are not alone.  Sometimes people don’t walk away because they don’t care - they walk away because deep down,  they know they were wrong, and they don’t have the emotional maturity to face it.  That is what psychology refers to as guilty conscience.  When someone knows they have treated you unfairly - disrespected you, betrayed your trust, or hurt you - they may start avoiding you altogether. Not because you are at fault, but because being around you reminds them of their own failure to take responsibility.  Avoidance becomes their escape route. Accountability is too heavy a burden for those who lack the courage to own their mistakes.  And so, instead of apologising or repairing the relationship, they simply. Remove themselves from your life quietly. Without closure.Without e...

Being the Parent and the Child - The Silent Struggle of the In-Between

 Unpopular opinion,but one that needs a seat at the table.  We speak often - and rightly so - about how hard. Parenting is. About the sleepless nights, the emotional labour, the constant worry. But not enough people talk about how hard it is to be some one’s child, too - especially when you’re deep in the trenches of raising your own.  I am living both lives right now.  I am a parent - juggling routines, managing moods, showing up even when I feel completely emptied out. But I am also still a child - a daughter who still aches. To be there for her own parents, especially as they age and life throws new challenges their way. When we were living in Chennai, this duality felt a little more maneageable. Our parents were close by. We could take them to their doctor’s appointments drop in for a quick check, hold their hand in a moment of fear or frailty. There was proximity. There was presence.  Now, things have changed. When one of the in-law had a recent health issu...

The Bravest Goodbye: Choosing Yourself Over Begging for Love

There comes a moment in every woman’s  life when she stands at  a quiet crossroads - not because she’s fallen out of love, but because she’s fallen out of strength. Not because she doesn’tcare, but because she’s tired of caring alone.   Sometimes, the bravest thing a woman can do is walk away.  Not from love itself, but from the exhaustion of constantly begging for it.  Because love, in its truest form, should never have to be pleaded for. It should never make you feel like you have to earn by shrinking yourself, overexplaining your emotions, or performing emotional acrobatics just to be seen, heard and valued.  We often grow up believing that love is about holding on, about making things work no matter the cost. So we stay. We justify. We try harder. We keep explaining ourselves to someone who never really listens. We bend our backs trying to be “ENOUGH” for some one who refuses to see our worth. But here’s the truth no one tells you early enough.:  B...

Dress Good - More Than Just Looking Nice

We often hear the phrase "Dress Good" thrown around casually, but what does it really mean? Is it about wearing expensive clothes? Is it about following the latest fashion trends? Is it about impressing others?  Not necessarily. Dressing well goes beyond outward appearance - it's an act of self-respect, self-expression, and even self care.  Dressing Goods Starts with Feeling Good When you choose to dress neatly, cleanly, and in a way that makes you feel confident, you are telling  yourself: I matter. Even if you are just staying home or running errands, slipping into clothes that make you feeether can ul put to uplift your mood. It's not about vanity - it's about vitality.   A crisp kurta, a well-fitted shirt, a saree draped with care - they all carry energy. And that energy reflects in how you carry yourself through the day.  First Impression Matter - But So Does Self-Image Whether we like it or not, people form impressions within seconds of seeing us. But more...

Basic Life Skills - Gentle Habits That Quietly Shape a Better Life

We often chase big dreams, complicated goals, or long checklists - believing that life's value lies in what we achieve. But over time, I have come to realise something deeper: It's the simple things that shape us. The soft, daily choices. The tiny adjustments. The quite discipline.  They don;t demand attention. But they deserve reflection. This blog series is born from that  space -  from my own journey of learning, unlearning, stumbling, and growing through the simplest of life lessons. Each one sounds like common advice. But when lived intentionally, they become powerful tools for clarity, balance, and peace.  Let me introduce you to a few of these every day essentials - not as rules, but as reminders.  Dress Good Not to impress others - but to express self-respect. The way you dress changes the way you feel, and how you carry yourself. Neatness and self-care aren't vanity. They are signals of self-worth. Eat Well  Food is fuel, but it's also emotion, tra...

Let Them Talk - You Keep Walking

 There will always be people who talk behind your back They may whisper, laugh, or pass judgement on your choices, your mistakes, your silence, and even your success. But here's the truth: people who are focused on growth rarely waste time gossiping about others. Those who speak ill of you behind your back are often fighting silent battles with themselves. Instead of working on their own shortcomings, it's easier for them to point fingers. It's easier to project their own frustrations onto others than to take the harder road of self-reflection and change.  If you start changing your course every time someone criticizes you. You'll never reach your destination. Remember, a lion does not turn around when a dog barks. Let them bark. Your energy is too precious to waste on proving your worth to people who have already made up their minds without even knowing your full story.  Walk with your head high. Make peace with your past. Own your flaws and celebrate your strengths, B...

Life is a Circle - It Goes Round and Round

 Have you ever felt like life keeps bringing you back to the same places, same people, or similar situations - just in different forms? That/s not coincidence. That/s the circle of life playing out its quiet, mysterious rhythm,es.  From the moment we are born to the time we leave this world, life moves in cycles. Seasons change, day follows night, and endings often bring new beginnings. Everything that seems like a full stop is really juest a comma in the longer sentence of life. What goes Around Comes Around We have all heard this phrase. It/s a reminder that our actions - good or bad - circle back to us. Kindness shown years ago returns inexpectedly. . A lie once told catches. Life;s circle doesm't forget. It simply waits for the right time to complete the loop. Repetition Isn't Always a Setback Sometimes, we find ourselves struck in patterns - making the same mistakes, facing similar challenges. But maybe it's not about being struck. Maybe life brings us back to these mo...

Growth is Stepping Over the Things You Trip On

 Life  has a way of throwing the same stones in our path -  over and over. Sometimes they look different, sometimes they come disguised as people, opportunities, or emotions. But if we look closely, many of the things we tripped on yesterday - fear, self doubt, comparison, anger or even past hurt. We fall. We scrape our knees. We cry. We pause. And then we rise. That rise - however slow, however unsure - is growth. Growth isn't perfection. It isn't about never stumbling again. It isn't about walking a smooth, straight road where nothing ever gets in your way. Growth is about recognizing the stone that made you fall, and the next time, stepping over it. May be not with ease, may be not with confidence, but with awareness.  Growth   is awareness. It is that shift in thought a dejavu - "Wait, I've been here before. I know ths piain. I know this pattern I know how this ends - and I choose differently this time." That's it. That small moment - that single decis...