Valid Pain: Your Emotions Deserve a Voice

 Whenever we react to situations, we are told that we being too sensitive or overreacting when someone or something genuinely hurt us.

It is a common and painful experience - one that invalidates our feelings and forces us to doubt our emotional truth. But the truth that needs to heard loud and clear 

IF IT HURTS YOU, IT HURTS YOU FOR SURE. 

There is no Universal Scale for Pain
Pain is personal. What feels like a minor inconvenience to one person can deeply hurt and wound another.- and both are valid. Our emotional responses are shaped by our past experiences, our upbringing, our traumas, our values and our current state of mind. Just because someone else does not understand our reaction it does not make it less real.

Telling someone that they are "too sensitive" or they are "overreacting" is not just a feedback. - It is a dismissal. 

The myth of overreacting
Many a times we are taught to "toughen up", "let go" or "not take things personally". While resilience is important, suppressing emotional responses for the sake of appearing strong only causes more harm in the long run. Over time, it erodes self-trust, demeans self respect. We start doubting whether we are allowed to feel what we feel. You begin to shrink our self to fit the comfort of others. 

Our emotions are our messengers
When something hurts, it is our inner self signaling that something is not right. May be a boundary was crossed. May be a value was violated. May be it touched a wound that still  needs healing. 

Instead of questioning the validity of our emotions ask:
  • What is this feeling trying to tell me?
  • Where is it coming from?
  • What do I need in this moment?
This is not weakness. This is self awareness. 

The power of honoring our pain
Owning our emotions does not mean wallowing in them or using them to lash out at others. It means giving yourself permission to feel, to reflect and to communicate those feeling with authenticity. 

When you honor your pain:
  • You begin to heal instead of suppress. 
  • You create space for boundaries and clarity. 
  • You  build emotional self respect. 
You deserve to  be heard
Let this be our reminder:
We are not dramatic.
We are not broken. 
We are not "too much".

We are human. 

And if it hurts us, then it is worth paying attention to.
Your feelings are valid - even when others do not understand them. Speak the truth, and surround with those who hold space for it. 

Here is a call to action
What is something we have been brushing off as "not a big deal" that is actually been hurting you? Writing down. Name it. Feel it. You deserve that kind of honesty with our self. 

For journal prompts based on this post check the Validation prompts for journaling post. 

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