Forgiveness is Freedom, Not Approval

 Forgiveness is often misunderstood. Many people believe that forgiving someone means condoning their behaviour or opening the door for them to hurt us again and again. But true forgiveness is something entirely different - something deeply personal and profoundly healing. 

The quote:
            " I forgive people but that does not mean I accept their behaviour or trust them. I forgive them                     for me, so I can let go and move on with my life."

This is a powerful reminder that forgiveness is not about the other person; it is about reclaiming our peace. 

Forgiveness is Not the Same as Trust
Trust is earned. It is built slowly and consistently over time. When someone violates that trust through betrayal, lies or repeated harm, it is natural - and wise - to protect yourself. Forgiving someone does not mean you have to let them back into your life or forget the pain they caused. You can draw boundaries while still choosing not to carry the weight of resentment. 

Letting Go for Your Own Sake
When we hold onto anger or hurt, we often think we are punishing the other person. But in reality, we are the ones suffering. That emotional burden drains us, shadows our joy and keeps us stuck in the past. Forgiveness is a way to release that burden -not because they deserve it but because we do. 

It is not weakness. It is strength.
It is not forgetting. It is releasing. 
It is not approval. It is peace. 

A Personal Choice to Heal
Forgiveness is a choice we make for our own well-being. It does not require reconciliation or even a conversation. Sometimes, it is simply a quiet decision in your heart: "I choose to be free from this pain. I choose to move forward."

We can acknowledge the hurt, honour our boundaries, and still let go. In doing so we take back the power we gave away to that pain. We choose healing over bitterness, growth over stagnation. 

If you are holding on to anger, know this: forgiveness does not make you weak, it makes you free. Free to live fully, love openly, and walk lightly. Don't forgive because they asked. Don't forgive because they changed. Forgive because you deserve peace. 

Let go - not for them, but for you. 

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